What Is Love, Baby Dont hurt me?

So i was sitting around the other day and got my self thinking on the topic of the Phrase, I LOVE YOU. Hmmmm I Love You. WHY? if you arent in my immediate family, arent dating me and dont intend to date me, is that really the right choice of words? Shocked? probably, however, let me explain.
I LOVE YOU is a reserve phrase, it can not be bandied about like a kite on a string in my world. Ok maybe i am being narrow minded, but hear me out. I LOVE YOU is sacred to me, just like sex. Yeah, you can say it or do it, but how do you feel afterwards. I dont say I LOVE YOU to Friends, unless they have been friends a LONG time. And even then its Love ya man, or Luv Ya Dude/Chick.




When my nieces and nephews say it to me, i know what they mean and while i like to hear it, its not exactly LOVE. They LOVE me because i spoil them. Their concept of love at this point in time revolves around toys, candy and a big scoop of Dip n Dots Ice cream. Thats fine, they are kids after all. Thats Not Love. Thats Caring, thats treating some one kindly "LIKE" instead of "LOVE". I can say do it for the love of my brother.

Confused yet? I'm am getting there.

I have heard the phrase tossed around like a sack of mcdonalds fries to the point were it becomes ubiquitous with hello. And in hearing it handled in that manner, makes me wonder if peoples concept of love has been degraded in our "i want it all Now" society.


Too many people want it too fast, they want it too soon. Patience, in this world, is gold or diamonds that are deep with in the mines of a persons soul that they, themselves, know its there. They are just waiting for it to mine itself out and have it fall into their being. Until that Happens, they fill the happy void with the phrase I LOVE YOU like it is emotional dynamite. Yeah, one thing wrong with that plan, they didnt hook the fuse up to that dynamite, so every time the lever is pushed down, it emits sparks some where in an undisclosed location, no where near the stack of dynamite it is meant to fire off.


What about Love at first site? to me that falls into the romantic category. Yes i believe in Love at first site, i have had love at first site. some times it was actual love and sometimes it was just Lust disguised as cute and fuzzy bunny called LOVE. However, that is my only exception of when I LOVE YOU is not wasted. And while this is a tad off topic, i do believe people are "fated" to be together, that there is a connection from a past life that ties souls together. Not every soul recognizes the other soul from that past life connection, yet they are inextricably drawn to each other until they either realize it, or deny it. But thats another blog.

So Back to the matter at hand. I believe I LOVE YOU should be EARNED. I think it should be fought for tooth, nail and finger, maybe a foot. I think the old description of a Knight going off to slay a dragon before being married to the princess applies to my belief. WHY? Because its not a candy bar, its not ice cream, its not a toy. It is a deep emotional feeling that is craved by every human soul in this world. It is the same emotion that drives one to company to stave off the feeling of being alone or unwanted. IT MEANS THINGS to people. It will also confuse people.

How many times in your life have you heard some one question you "BUT...BUT you said you love me?". I find it odd that people really dont comprehend the amount of people who disgnate them selves as "LONELY" souls, LOST souls or LOVE SEEKING MAGNETS. ( ok i threw that in cause it sounded funny, but that my description, LOVE SEEKING MAGNET).



This is why Stalkers exist, as far as i am concerned. Not every one is as smart as you would like them to be. Peoples conception of their own reality surrounding them can be tilted or off base enough so they misinterpet a Smile?, a gesture, a PHRASE like I LOVE YOU. To most people there are not seven degrees of seperation when it comes to LOVE, it either IS or ISNT.
Lonely people tend to gravitate towards the "LOVE GIVERS" like a person leaving a darkened cave seeking light and warmth. Think about it for a second. Your concept of LOVE is not theirs.

Too many times we think because, WE understand what we mean, EVERY ONE gets it.
Sorry people this really is a DOG eat DOG world. It is that way because so many people have so many ways to think about their realities and definitions of their vocabulary. So many people leave it to so many others to interpet their actions and words.



Stil not getting it? Let me put it to you this way. You Love your mom, dad or some immediate family member. Why? CAUSE THEY EARNED IT. You love your DOG or CAT or what ever PET you have WHY? because they EARNED IT. they earned it by being there for you both emotionally and physically. they have braved a path for you to walked down unharmed. THEY SLAYED the DRAGON for you.

got it YET? how bout this? If i loved you and a bus was barreling uncontrollabley towards you and i was the only one that could save you and it meant giving up my life, i wouldnt think twice about it.



This is the way i look at LOVE. EARN IT, dont assume its like the virtual candy bar. (nom nom nom dont you love it). If you are offended by this post, ask yourself why? I wasnt offended when you said you love me, i understood our concepts are different. No harm, No foul. I'm a realist, and i like things Black and White.

This is the Mighty Thor, standing in for Cupid, who is currently drunk on an island in fiji, with your lesson on the Phrase "I LOVE YOU". SEEEEEEE YAAAAAA!